Books on making conversations
- Conversationally Speaking: Tested New Ways to Increase Your Personal and Social Effectiveness
- This is hands down the best book on how to make conversation. If How to win friends is the cult classic for social skills in general, this is the cult classic for making conversation in particular.
- The Fine Art of Small Talk: How To Start a Conversation, Keep It Going, Build Networking Skills
- The Charisma Myth: How Anyone Can Master the Art and Science of Personal Magnetism
- For example, this book talks about how you can be more charismatic by practicing being attentive and at the same time warm and confident (And gives you a strategy for how to do that).
- The Introvert Advantage — https://smile.amazon.com/Introvert-Advantage-People-Thrive-Extrovert/dp/0761123695
- It gives a lot of strategies for how to socialize as an introvert without being drained of energy. The only critique could be that it’s a bit clinical.
uid: 202204171820 tags: #society #relationships #books
Airtable diary 04-11-22
Things to do:
- Review Keunwoo’s diff [maindb resilience] add liveShardsHelper.runOnShardForApplicationV2Async by KeunwooLee-at · Pull Request #16472 · Hyperbase/hyperbase
- Publish clean-up diff of the new shard assignments accessor PR https://github.com/Hyperbase/hyperbase/pull/13934
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Talk to Keunwoo about Redis / expanding cache patterns
- Also want to mention this: Consistent Cache Protocol - Google Docs
- Land fix to _ensureThatWorkerIsStillAssignedAsync worker child crasher https://github.com/Hyperbase/hyperbase/pull/15479
- Clean up the Scaling & Resiliency Oncall - Google Docs
- Go through Andrew’s PR before reviewing with Keunwoo
Other things I did:
- Talked to Phil, AStaley about caching abstractions.
- Posted in Airtable/airtable-eng-class-of-2022
- Finalized this Airtable base for insights discovery https://airtable.com/appvvNGyw7R3MfOOM/tblAlvyl6ebnLMqtL/viwgrLzhXQ8Wwj7TE?blocks=bipJM98iogzDHfKPt
uid: 202204111355 tags: #airtable #journal
Pros And Cons Of The Archive
202207051453 Pros:
- Flat structure — This makes it simple to see a list of notes, and to better view the context between notes
- Built around search — Search is the main way that I can reflect and discover notes after the fact (keeping in mind that I want to be more like an author, not a writer 202204101911). Cons:
- It’s not the best as a knowledge repository, I’ve found. (#update 12-27-22: This is what the author of Unbundling Tools for Thought 202212271346 suggested a SQLite type database with a schema 202207051412 is better for). Maybe something like Craft or Notion is better for that, where it’s less important to be able to quickly create new articles and instead, be able to reorganize/restructure/view high-level documents easily. Although to be fair, I haven’t found something like this that works for me for Airtable either. It’s worth considering just using Google docs / whatever the document structure provided by the company is for this instead of my own solution. (Although Jayden uses Dynalist and it seems to work well for him. Hmm). I think my issue is that I wasn’t using links enough, and moving concrete ideas into their notes.
- This links to the previous con, but the fact that it requires so much engineering means that there is an entry bar that makes it so that it’s not very simple to do “basic” tasks like move documents around and such.
uid: 202204102121 tags: #notetaking
Make all new notes easily discoverable
Source: https://www.reddit.com/r/Zettelkasten/comments/jvd4a9/index_im_not_sure_i_get_it/gcl972k/
I’ve also just started note-taking with Obisidian and for me, keeping an index is all about (A) not forgetting about having written it in the first place and (B) making sure my future self can re-discover the note easily. The book “How to Take Smart Notes” talks about there being 2 types of note collectors:
- The Archiver, who is more concerned about the way a note is stored
- The Writer, who is more concerned about retrieving relevant notes when needed Nobody is a pure Archiver or Writer, consider this more to be a spectrum where you lean more towards one than another. The book, however, heavily encourages you to lean more toward being a Writer.
So whenever adding a new note into your collection think “how would I like to stumble upon this note in the future?”. I try to make it re-discoverable by adding tags and adding every note to a primary index note.
Note-Taking (index) 202204102124
From this book: How to Take Smart Notes 202204102146
Created from: In Defense Of Tags In My Zettelkasten 202204101843
uid: 202204101911 tags: #notetaking
Negotiation
“At top places like X Corp. [Applied], people in this job get between $130,000 and $170,000.”
Use uneven numbers
How to negotiate a better salary
“BE PLEASANTLY PERSISTENT ON NONSALARY TERMS”
“Pleasant persistence is a kind of emotional anchoring that creates empathy with the boss and builds the right psychological environment for constructive discussion. And the more you talk about nonsalary terms, the more likely you are to hear the full range of their options. If they can’t meet your nonsalary requests, they may even counter with more money.”
Make sure to define success terms along with salary terms
“Once you’ve negotiated a salary, make sure to define success for your position—as well as metrics for your next raise.”
“SPARK THEIR INTEREST IN YOUR SUCCESS AND GAIN AN UNOFFICIAL MENTOR”
“Ask: “What does it take to be successful here?”
Fair
“The last use of the F-word is my favorite because it’s positive and constructive. It sets the stage for honest and empathetic negotiation. Here’s how I use it: Early on in a negotiation, I say, “I want you to feel like you are being treated fairly at all times. So please stop me at any time if you feel I’m being unfair, and we’ll address it.”
Calibrated questions
“What about this is important to you?
■How can I help to make this better for us?
■How would you like me to proceed?
■What is it that brought us into this situation?
■How can we solve this problem?
■What’s the objective? / What are we trying to accomplish here?
■How am I supposed to do that?”
uid: 202010132114 tags: #recruiting
- No surprise here that there was a huge outcry (led by males) upon the invention of the tampon, even when it was an invention that conveniently solved a problem that women had been facing for literally thousands of years.
- I wonder why there were little to no regulations on the tampon industry, and very little thought put into the consequences of putting petrochemicals into women’s bodies without properly verifying that it was safe. It makes me think that this was a result of blatant, inhuman capitalism — once these tampon companies discovered that this was a new, unexplored industry to dominate, they went crazy trying to extract as much value as they could from it, while completely disregarding any thought for the women that they were treating as their guinea pigs. This makes me really upset.
- Schlievert’s realization that the menstrual cycle served as the perfect vehicle for the mechanism of the new Staphylococcus strain seems like detective work - it seems like it should be sufficient to explain everything, but I don’t see what evidence he has to prove his claim.
uid: 202009222342 tags: #mcb55