Maintaining my relationships
- 3 things I can do to be a better boyfriend
- Since Mulan is in a situation where she feels afraid to initiate stuff (or because of her mild depression), she doesn’t really feel the desire to make as much of an occasion about things as she did previously, I should be actively initiating stuff more with her!
- Actively think more about how cool she is, and her accomplishments (I sometimes think more about them for other people, but don’t recognize them when she does super cool shit). Also encourage her to tell me more about stuff!
- 1 thing I can do to be a better son
- Do more unprompted nice things (like getting gifts! Not necessarily expensive ones, but thoughtful ones, if I see them) [like oh I saw this online, I thought you would like it, or this would work for you]
- I’m already doing a decent amount for this, but making sure to wish my parents good night every night, and regularly give them hugs / be there for them.
- 1 thing I can do to be a better brother
- Think of a good way to address the situations where I think she’s being lazy or spending too much time on her phone (or better yet, don’t address them at all, because it’s not really my business, they don’t really affect her in any kind of negative way, and when it actually matters (i.e. we’re doing something together as a family), she’s never on her phone. So it doesn’t really matter.
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