Talk With Mulan
Really cool talk with Mulan!
A couple of things we talked about:
- Gender gap in interviews - it’s generally accepted for guys to be funny and bro-ey, but if girls do that, it is easily construed as unprofessional
- Generally, how many factors go into interviewing - so many people get rejected for stuff that’s just not under their control, or if everyone else was just better than them, or if they were placed into a group where either other people were better than them or they got overshadowed by other people for some reason, etc. There could be so many reasons, it’s insane.
- It’s also really annoying how there is usually no indication of how close you were to actually make the cut for something based on recruiting. It’s really frustrating.
- For me personally, Mulan mentioned that I should try to take more risks when it comes to being pretty personal about stuff, because that comes off as really genuine and people appreciate that. Most canned answers, people don’t remember for shit. Just be real.
- We talked about how Mulan managed to make it through so many interviews successfully - she has a confident vibe, like she knows what she’s doing, but she has absolutely no air of cockiness and overconfidence. It’s very difficult to point out something negative with her interviews, and that’s not always enough for someone to make it through (see the luck that I mentioned before), but more often than not, it’s enough for her to sneak through. She’s usually not going to be the most gregarious and well-liked people, at least not right away, but she’s in no way shape or form disagreeable, which is important.
- Also talked about the fires at the end, and I messaged her with this link that lets you donate some money to the fires on Oregon (https://donate.google.com/u/2/checkout?campaignid=6506175487082496&tab=1&hl=en-US&authUser=0)
- Also talked about what makes it so that we find each other quite funny, but it’s difficult for us to be funny like that with other people. Something I realized is that a big part of you finding people close to you funny is nothing more than them doing something that’s pretty cute or endearing, and you just think it’s entertaining. It might not be a joke per se.
The conversation was just flowing so effortlessly! Definitely one of the best talks we’ve had in a long time.
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