Forgiving tit for tat in arguments
When you’re having an argument with someone, it’s very easy for one person to think the other person is being too extreme, and be extreme in response back. This makes the other person even more likely to be extreme, and ad infinitum.
This made me realize that all it really takes is for one person to be having a bad day, or to make a mistake, and this sequence of escalation can go on, and on, and on, until there’s a collective decision to stop, or one person apologizes. But ultimately, what caused it all was just one person reacting in a small negative way, which ordinarily would be more than excusable.
Therefore, people should be more forgiving of after arguments, assuming that they can forgive people saying stupid stuff when they lose their temper (or when they’re trying harder and harder to prove their point).
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